Dear Amy: I’ve been dating my boyfriend for the past year. I brought 𒁏my pets and we moved in with him this past Deജcember. He’s an amazing guy – the absolute best!
The issue arises with his house. He owns a three-bedroom house🐷.
Last July his sister and her family moved in wཧith him.
This took the total number of people from two adults, three cats and two d💧ogs to four adults, six kids, three cats and two𝔉 dogs.
My cats have reached their limits wi💙th the children and avoid them.
My dogs love to try to be around the kids but be🌊cause one is a puppy, they complained and now my dogs regularly have to stay outside or i🌜n the garage.
I have absolutely HAD IT with this family.
I feel like my boyfriend and I h💧ave become prisoners in his house because there is constant drama and chaos.
When his sister’s family has fights, we basically have to sit in our room, or in the garage (we ended up c♈onverting it to a bedroom) while they slam doors and stuff inside the house༺.
And if we even TRY to start to bring stuff up, it’s World 🌌War III.
How do I tell my boyfriend I’m sick of how they take adv🧸antage of him and disrespect his hous🥂e and belongings?
I get that they were there when I moved in, but I want them GO💙NE, ASAP, but I don’t want to be the bad guy!
– Woman, Standing on the Edge
Dear Standing: Even though you main♋tain that this family has encroached upon your boyfriend – and you, by your own account the family already lived there when you moved in. (They moved into the house in July, and you moved in in December.)
You have framed this as an issue of them crowding y꧟ou out, b💛ut you made a choice to move in when they were already there.
I point this out to emphasize the fact that you don’t have a valid reason to put your foot down about this crowded hous𒈔e.
This arrangeme⭕nt obviously isn’t working out for you or the animals you are responsible fꩵor.
Your boyfriend might be overwhelme🔯d, but if he wants his sister and her many family members to find other hous🍒ing, he needs to tell them.
He soundඣs like a very generous person, but if he, you, his family members, their children, and the animals are all misera൲ble, then things need to change.
Getting his family members to move out might be a difficult prospꦿect, especially for someone like your guy, who hides in his bedroom.
You, however, are an individual with choices, and if your living situation isn’t healthy for you and your animals, then 🌳you should find housing elsewhere.
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